Recognizing My Inner Eeyore

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I am in Austin this weekend for the Co-Active Coach Fulfillment training class, and I've been learning about the Saboteur--the inner voice that says, "No, you can't change.  You're not good enough.  You should do this and not that."  It's the voice that makes you feel small and down on your abilities.  And given that Eeyore's Birthday Party was today in Austin, becoming aware of your "Eeyore mode" feels like a good metaphor for recognizing that your Saboteur is getting the best of you.

I was talking to a coworker the other day about my big audacious goals, and when I started talking about the HUMONGOUS effort it would take to make it happen, he called out my negative talk.  My Saboteur was telling me that my goals are too hard, too big, and would require too much change.  That the work required doesn't fit in my life right now.  That I can't do it.  "I'm still finding my way," my inner Eeyore said.  And my coworker challenged me to take a mini-vacation to find some quiet space for myself so I could think big and create.  Even that felt like an impossible challenge.

The very next day some things started to change for me at work.  Things are shifting to be more in alignment with what I want to do--without me pushing my agenda on the world.  I get to create and try the stuff I want to create and try!  And as I drove to Austin after work that day, my brain was full of ideas.  I wish I had been able to write them all down in the moment.  My stay in Austin has given me some of the break I needed to think big--the mini-vacation my coworker urged me to take.  There's more to come.  My Eeyore hasn't been forgotten, and he's certainly not gone; my goals are big and audacious and glorious, and that's precisely why I need to work on them now.

What is your Eeyore stopping you from doing?

Allison Pollard

Allison Pollard is a coach, consultant, and trainer who brings the power of relationship systems intelligence to go beyond tasks, roles, and frameworks to create energy for change. She engages with people and teams in a down-to-earth way to build trust and listen for signals to help them learn more and improve. Allison focuses on creating alignment and connection for people to solve business problems together. Her experience includes working with teams and leaders in energy, retail, financial, real estate, and transportation industries to help improve their project/product delivery and culture. Allison currently volunteers as program director for Women in Agile’s mentorship program. Her agile community focus is championing new voices and amplifying women as mentors and sponsors for the next generation of leaders. Allison earned her bachelor’s degrees in computer science, mathematics, and English from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, TX. She is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC), a foodie, and proud glasses wearer. Allison is a prolific speaker at professional groups and international conferences, including Scrum Gatherings and the Agile Alliance Agile20xx conferences. Allison is co-owner of Helping Improve LLC.

http://www.allisonpollard.com
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